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Celebrating Your Wins

May 13, 2015 By Kat

It’s good to feel on top when everything works out how you desired especially when you’ve been breaking your butt over it. Celebrating your wins is important I learned from my business coaching sessions. It’s nice to reward yourself for a job well done, recognizing your talents & appreciating what you do is valued. Especially if, like me, you are self-employed, who’s going to pat you on the back if you don’t do it yourself right?

How you celebrate can take on different forms:

Shout it from the rooftops, ring your bestie, splash it all over social media, anyway to get it out there on what a grand achievement you’ve just pulled off. Let everyone & anyone bask in your joy & happiness. Share the love!

Reward yourself with a gift. Be it small or extravagant. A massage, the eBook you’ve been dying to read, a shiny new crystal or breakfast at your favourite spot.

Sit quietly alone to connect. Tell yourself what a wonderful, empowered & brilliant Soul you are for walking your talk & reaching your goal. Party for one right here, cue solo happy dance.

Simply smile & say well done you.

All of the above!

Celebrate in any way that makes you feel good about your win.

For me I’d always go with numbers 1 or 2. What better to let the world know how great everything is going for me? Especially to confirm externally that taking that leap from secure salaried job to freelancer is working out.

“Everyone that thought I was mad & just ‘playing’ at this healing/yoga/teaching thing well get this it’s all working out brilliant just look at what I did….”

Focus in closely on the sentence above. It’s not flowing from the heart is it? It’s coming from my head, oozing with self-doubt searching for confirmation & I’m basically talking to myself. Putting it out there to validate (to myself) that I’m doing okay. Looking for external gratification from others for a job well done instead of sinking into my heart space & just thanking myself privately.

I don’t need to broadcast it to the world how well I’m doing. Knowing inside that my efforts have paid off is enough. Just as in numbers 3 & 4. It’s nice to keep things sacred, just for me. ‘Knowing’ & ‘acknowledging’ to myself I’ve done well is the highest reward possible. Gratitude toward myself will nourish my Soul, enrich my heart & solar plexus Chakras & bring me joy. This will then radiate outwards. Others will pick up on my success by my presence, the smile on my face & the positive energy I emanate. “Everything must be going really well for you Kat, you’re glowing & always so cheerful” is a comment I often hear. The external will congratulate you without fishing for it 😉

It’s fine to share your wins on social media, don’t get me wrong. I’m slowly starting to get back into it but from a place of love & gratitude, instead of ego & head inflating intentions. Posting to thank the beautiful people who have trusted in me for a healing session, Reiki training or sending kind words of support. It’s awesome to celebrate those kind & loving people who encourage me too. A double celebration!

Another nice (from the heart) reason to share wins in public is you never know who will read them. Someone in the world may well be searching for some inspiration to start their own business or follow their passions. Reading about others out there who are doing what they’d like to do may well be the encouragement they need to take the first leap. Share from the heart to inspire others to discover the greatness within them.

Even number two started to not sit that well with me. Buying something ‘material’ as a reward. More ‘stuff’ to accumulate. Why not make a donation to charity instead? Give a gift to someone else just because (homemade edible treats are perfect). Reward yourself with an afternoon off to walk on the beach & watch the sun set.

What I do now is wait to buy something I’m really lusting after & use this as my reward. (Gives me chance to really decide if it’s a want or a need as well) I’m not a huge spender anymore. Pretty much what I invest in has some sort of healing benefit not just for me but also for others. Like an essential oil, a crystal or card deck I can use in my sessions or share with my partner. That way it will give me that extra push to work hard to get it as more than just me will gain.

That was my take on celebrating your wins. I hope you have found this useful in some way. I’d love to hear how you celebrate your own wins too in your own unique ways. Please feel free to share in the comments below.

Big love & I’ll look forward to connecting with you all again soon,

Kat xx

When People ‘Unlike’ You

February 12, 2015 By Kat

Can you remember what life was like before Facebook?

I resisted signing up for so long. “Are you on Facebook?” people would ask. “No quite happy not to be thanks.” Then it got to the point some friends wouldn’t even check their emails because “I only use Facebook now.” I finally got sucked in because I’d met a whole bunch of fun people on a tour bus around Europe & someone suggested we make a Facebook group to stay in touch & share photos. That was is I was on Facebook.

Skip ahead seven years & I’m still on Facebook. A few times I’ve thought ‘nahh it’s time to shut it down’ it’s such a waste of time & I’m not liking the kind of energy exchanges on there. However there is some really good stuff to read & it is a great way to keep up with international friends. Now I’ve built my business page I get a lot of joy posting my daily musing & interacting with like-minded Soul’s.

When I first started my Seren Holistic Lifestyles FB page I was a bit obsessed with the number of ‘likes’ I had. I’d look at other people’s pages & they would have hundreds of ‘likers.’ I’m so passionate about my work I really wanted lots and lots of people to be paying attention & following me too. Please let me be part of the cool kid gang.

In the Bright Eyed & Blog Hearted course FB group, getting likes was a hot topic. A lot of group members with business pages were chasing a ‘milestone like’ number. Posts asking “how do I reach 500 likes by Friday?” were quite common. Members shared their tricks to getting themselves out there & building numbers. Some were great marketing tools especially for those building businesses with paid for services.

It did however all seem like a lot of hard work. Spending a large amount of time trawling through Facebook liking & commenting on other pages to ‘get your name out there.’ For what a number? At the time that number was like gold to me. I so wanted to play in the big leagues of ‘like numbers.’ How awesome would it be to have engaging conversations happening on my page with lots of comments & page hits? This is how success is measured right with how many people follow you on FB? Well thankfully NOW I figured this out to be a BIG FAT NO.

However there were more lessons to be learned before I got there…

For a person obsessing about a rising number if someone ‘unliked’ my page it was a total disaster. Who was it? Was it a friend? Why did they leave? I would actually look through the likers list to see who was missing. What a nutter! (I found out later that unlikes can happen when people shut down their FB accounts so they naturally disappear from like numbers) I’d then try to get my like number back up by inviting friends to my page. Of course they would hit ‘like’ as they are my friends. However would these friends actually engage on my page?

All this crazy behavior was actually slowing down my progress. I was strangling the flow & my intent wasn’t pure, it was all about numbers. The energy was all wrong I finally realised. It was more an ego, head based want to have a large number of likers. Who says the pages with thousands of likers are actually engaging every single one of them? I’m sure there are pages out there that do or the admin team might have thousands of friends they’ve just invited to ‘like my page.’ I now believe firmly in quality over quantity. Numbers don’t matter.

I now get it.

My community of followers is small, 248 at the time of writing. Once I crossed the 200 like mark I definitely checked out from checking in on my like stats. The number has slowly grown from there, naturally & organically. The right followers will find me when they are ready.

There is a good amount of hard work I put into my page because I ‘want to’ for me’, not for getting more likers. I show up five days a week, post my stuff by speaking from the heart, no pushing or pulling. And you know what it works. I have regular followers who leave comments & engage with my posts. This feels good. I trust that the right people are getting the messages they need.

When people unlike my page it really isn’t a big deal anymore. I fully believe they got what they needed from the time they spent (if any) reading my posts. My message may not be aligned with them or their energy with mine anymore. They may not find what they were searching for or it may just be too woo woo 😉 This is all okay. Success is not to be measured by a number on Facebook. Success is how I feel about myself & how much I enjoy getting a kick out of what I do.

Have Facebook numbers sent you a bit loopy round the bend? I’d love to hear your stories, feel free to share in the comments below.

With love K xx

Thank you <3

July 25, 2013 By Kat

Just a quick note to say thank you so much to everyone who follows my blog & FB page. It is with huge gratitude I send out to you all for supporting me on this adventure. To know I am reaching just one person is enough to warm my cockles. It still amazes me how far a blog can reach. The emails and messages I receive from around the ‘world’ with such kind words of love are solid evidence I am doing what I’ve been put on this earth to do. I am here to be of service (in the spiritual sense not the waiting tables sense, even though there’s nothing wrong with the latter!) & spread the knowledge I have found of assistance to me in my life through writing.

Sadly there are haters but I don’t let them get me down. They actually help make my voice stronger & louder. I must be doing something right to generate such strong reactions. It cements that I am not a sheep & I’m not afraid to speak my truth. If others want to get in a tizzy over what I say that’s there responsibility not mine. No apologies!

On the plus side I can’t describe how happy it makes me to get such positive feedback from you dear readers. It’s your support that keeps me motoring on doing what I’m doing.

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Big LOVE,

Seren xx